Forgive and forget is a saying we ALL have heard at some point in time in our lives. Forgiving is a big step, but in the end it is a true reward. Going through anything in life that has influenced you will stick in your mind forever. Forgetting may not happen, but FORGIVENESS should. Letting go of the past is extremely healthy for your personal sake. Now let me simply explain the process of forgiveness for ME.
I never thought of myself as a victim of Domestic Violence, I never even thought of myself as a VICTIM period. After going through all that had happened, I didn't have much free time to think hard about my exact feelings. I had mixed emotions, sad, mad, angry but I refused to become bitter. I knew I couldn't allow myself to get so bitter that I became someone who hated herself or other people. I had to make a bold move and forgive the person that hurt me for hurting my mentally, emotionally and physically. I decided to let go and forgive. It may sound easy, but it wasn't an easy step to make. I thought of myself, for once, I had to love me for me, and make the decision to not let someone else run my life, because if I had not forgiven that person, I would be in their bondage. Letting go of past hurts will change your life. Do not hold on to things that you can no longer change. Just let it go, each day it gets easier and easier. Holding a grudge will not help you get over whatever it is you went through, but it will prolong your healing process. Making the decision to forgive I couldn't forget, but I personally prayed day in and day out. I listened to what God told me to do, and that was to help others. I want to help others forgive and gain their happiness back because you ALL deserve to be happy. There were times when I cried and cried and didn't know what my next move was, but I found out that the answer was there all along. If you haven't forgiven your abuser, do so now. You don't have to tell them, but you can show them with your actions. It's not about proving someone wrong or making someone look bad, but to better you and help prevent someone else from feeling the feelings you felt at one point, if not now. Make the bold move today and say aloud, "I FORGIVE YOU, I WILL NO LONGER LET PAST HURTS INFLUENCE MY LIFE, I WILL LET GO OF GRUDGES AND ANY ANGER PAST HURTS THAT I HAVE HELD ON TO. I MAKE THE DECLARATION TO FORGIVE NOT FOR ANYONE ELSE BUT MYSELF, I DECLARE THE BONDAGE TO BE BROKEN AS I SPEAK, TODAY I TAKE MY LIFE BACK, I TAKE MY CONTROL BACK, I TAKE MY AUTHORITY BACK, I FORGIVE YOU!" Now, doesn't that feel good?